Monday, March 31, 2008

Are limbs worth going out on?

(Yes that is a preposition dangling at the end of my title)

I feel sort of silly asking this, and I might delete this post when I've thought better of it :) , but I wonder what others' opinions are. (I have my own ideas.)

Given that you have an interest in both girls:
Is it better to ask out a girl for whom the asking out is comfortable? Or is it better to ask out a girl for whom the mere prospect of asking out is terrifying?

I refer specifically to first dates as it seems ridiculous to ask out a girl on a fourth or fifth date when she terrifies you. And I know that the two choices aren't exactly mutually exclusive. And by terrifying I mean that your brain shuts down when you think of asking or think of going...

What say ye?


Kira Joy said...

If they were jeans, what would you do?
Go with comfort.

Elise said...

If they were jeans, what would you do?
Try them both on or you may miss something great.

Liz said...

I think it's always worth giving it a shot. I do agree that you're right about fourth or fifth date--if she still terrifies you then, maybe she's just a scary person.

I think you should probably go out with both of them. If it were me, I'd probably ask out the less scary one first, because then you can have that successful experience to give you confidence for the more scary one.

If you've got interest in both of them though, it's definitely worth giving them both a shot. You don't want to look back and wonder what would have happened.

I totally understand the feeling though--I hate asking people out--SUPER SCARY! I just have to remind myself that I probably won't be physically hurt or publically mocked. And if it goes really badly, then I feel totally entitled to some ice cream or something. :)

This may be a longer response than you were looking for. That's what you get when you ask me a question...sorry...

Go for it!

Todd said...

it sounds like you should just go buy some jeans...